I’m writing this while waiting for a flight to head out on a business trip. I will be gone for 5 days, away from home, loving wife and kids. It has been a hectic couple of months for me so far. Traveling, by nature has it’s advantages as it takes you places you might not have been before and opens doors to new people, cultures and experiences. However, at times, it also takes you away from your loved ones as well, which would be a hard thing to do often for many of us.
I guess travel is just one of many things that’s keeping people away from families. In the “new world” many things have changed in terms of how, when and where people work. With the advent of Internet and improved mobile computing experience, while people are getting things done at the speed of light, they are also compelled to take work where ever they go.
While that is the case, there are still many opportunities for people to work at managing their work – life balance. But given the fast, competitive and challenging world, I think it is getting harder and harder for people to be able to do that. I’m rooting and hoping for the day that would let me do all the work that I want to but still help me spend considerable time with the loved ones. I hope that day is not a mirage as I put it in the title of this post.
Time and Tide waits for none…
Many of us have read or heard this a lot of times. However, we go about doing our business like Honey Bees. That’s right, Honey Bees. Each of us in our own way “think” that we are working for our future. However, what we do not realize is that we are not enjoying the current moment to the fullest in the process of working for our future. The future that we so fervently work for, passes by, but we will not have time to realize that because we are working for future. Every second that we spend working for future is another second that we miss.
That might have sounded crazy, but I have been reflecting on my work and personal life for the past 10 years. Work has been the epicenter of my world.I think it would be more justified to say that work has been my entire world. Everything else was secondary. I am ashamed to say that even my family, my financial future and everything that is considered my personal life was secondary. I expected and steered everything and all my closed ones to fall in line with this philosophy.
Many of you might be thinking “That’s Me”. Wake up people. Wake up and think about what you are doing. I know the impending economic situation, job losses etc. would be motivating enough to bury yourself in work, more than ever. Stop and think where you would go for shelter, consolation and a few words of encouragement if you are down. My guess is your closed ones. Make sure you are giving enough water to that tree today so that you can expect it to give you enough shade when you are tired, beaten down and desperately need some help to rejuvenate and recharge to get back to work for your future.
I know all this might sound incoherent like Joaquin Phoenix, not the actor but the musician, on Dave Letterman. But, I think somewhere in there are a few questions that you should ask yourself.
- Who are you working for?
- When was the last time you had 8 hours of sleep?
- When was the last time you have spent Sunday evenings, not thinking about your work on Monday?
- When was the last time you have gone back home after work and never had to open your laptop to respond to emails that you could not catch up on during your work hours?
- When was the last time you did not search for your Blackberry or laptop the moment you opened your eyes, early in the morning?
Happy Thinking 🙂 . Hope you get out of your depression pretty soon after reading this post.